The moment has arrived.
You know the one—after a dozen dates, late night phone marathons and intense, teenage-like make-out sessions—you cannot go on without some “fantastic footsie” in the sack.
For some, the wham-bam-thank-you-ma’am moment has already come and gone after the first date dinner plates were cleared.
For others, there was no date…just straight to home plate.
For many, there is an actual courtship involved, one that builds up to a romantic crescendo. Maybe it’s a night at a cabin in the mountains, a day at the beach or a night on the town in the big city.
Let’s be totally honest, the moment you have both been waiting for with bated, often panting, breath. But the plans have been made. Now comes the hard part.
You are under pressure as you frantically try to figure out what to pack, what to wear, and what to “under wear.” Then comes the “gasp!” as you fret over what kind of lover are you to be and, even more daunting, what kind of lover they will be!
Let’s just tell it like it is, ladies. How intense is the fire? How volatile is the chemistry? Will the two of you spontaneously combust the second your bodies collide? Or will you both wilt?
You have to decide exactly what type of experience you want the romantic weekend to be? It is your hands. Do you want to be the siren, the naughty girl or the lover?
What you want portray will determine how it all plays out. And it isn’t an act. We all have a little bit of siren, naughty girl and lover in us. But, sometimes, we get to choose which one we want to take control.
The trick, though, is whichever one you select is the kinda gal you will be expected to be in future footsie forays in the sack. You are laying the expectations between the sheets…literally and figuratively. It may also lay the groundwork for the type of relationship you may or may not have after the romantic weekend getaway.
Think Betty Page, or any classic, lusty pin-up lady. Become a siren by embracing your frisky “inner kitten.” The Siren is a balance between sexy and sensual, between classy and claws. Sirens are one part romantic, one part luscious and a jigger of jiggle. And clothes make the Siren, so check out the outfits below and see how you can leave some things to the imagination while also revealing some sex appeal.
Must Haves in the weekend bag for the Siren:
1. A bottle of bubbly
2. A jazz CD or playlist
3. Pinup style lingerie
6. A great travel bag
Think Megan Fox, or all the sassy young girls who are not afraid to bare it all. Become a Naughty Girl by flaunting what you’ve got with an attitude that is 110% confidence. Naughty Girls are into that whole “brevity thing” and like to get straight-to-the-point. The Naughty Girl adds a dash of nice to be suggestive and handful of spices. Check out the outfits below and see how you can show that you have nothing to hide but that everything is theirs to gain.
Must haves in the weekend bag for the Naughty Girl:
1. Leopard handcuffs
2. Edible chocolate
3. Naughty Girl style lingerie
6. A great travel bag
Think Reese Witherspoon, Jennifer Aniston or any clever
sweetheart who opens up with a touch of the “girl next door”.
Become a Lover by showing that you are girly, a bit sassy and very
self-assured. A Lover is flirty but makes him work a bit. For the true
Lover, the advertising is almost as important as the product. (ha!).
Lovers will show a few curves here and there, but the main attraction is the chemistry set: the laughs and smiles and glances that make up a great date with a great mate. The Lover’s outfit never distracts. It attracts, but the outfit isn’t the statement maker here. Dress to imply that the main focus will be on them.
Must haves in the weekend bag for the Lover:
1. Romantic candles
2. Massage oil
3. Lover style lingerie
6. A great travel bag
They will be putty on your hands at the moment you agreed to the
getaway–so be sure to pick your sleepover attire for the romantic weekend appropriately and match it to the moment. You will be setting the tone with what you wear so be sure that you are not only setting the expectation but that you are meeting ‘em!
As a media publication digital editions manager, Leah King manages the creation of the digital replica of design magazine, Dwell, and sees it through as it transforms to be viewed on the iPad, Nook, and Kindle. Shepherding through images and editorial pages, iconic designers and their designs,architects and their creations, and the photographers who shoot them,gives her a unique opportunity to see to the beauty and style produced in each issue. Leah also contributes editorially to dwell.com. In life outside of Dwell, she indulges in her passions for photography, producing graphic design projects, spinning her vinyl albums, collecting vintage electronics and calling it like she sees it over at Caught Looking. She also blabs about design, fashion, technology and architecture five days a week at Smitten Kitten Style.