THE GIRLS OF SUMMER…
Summer Time Fun – now – Let’s just go over the Rules Again!
It’s been way too long since I’ve written, but so many days in summer – so little time. I’ve kind of been enjoying the days a little more than I should, but still there are things to be noticed, things to be shared. I’ve kind of enjoyed sitting back and watching the summer unfold for once. The only part of summer that I’ve really recognized as per usual, is the eternal interacting between the boys and girls again. Remember the boys of summer? Well the fantastic part of the boys of summer is that it turns out there are some girls of summer as well. I’ve been surrounded by them! It’s awesome. Finally – the battle of the sexes has been defeated and all is fair in love and war once again.
I’ll re-cap the “Boy of Summer” for you. It’s the guy, (or guys, let’s not be shy) that capture your attention for a few months in the summer time. Sometimes it’s love – sometimes it’s not – ok – most times it’s not but it’s always hilariously fun and has endless possibilities. You know – until it doesn’t and then everyone gets to go home to start planning…whatever, Thanksgiving? The point is – every summer should have one. Even if it’s an innocent flirtation that goes nowhere and just stays in your day dreams or your drunken text messages, the point is it’s FUN!
Well, as it would turn out there’s “Girls of Summer” too!? Who would have thought? The reason I know this is because I’ve been around a bunch of these “girls” this summer. The only little difference is that there are more rules for the girls than there are for the boys. Not rules – not like – What’s that, Miss Manners-name? No – No – No. It’s a little different. There’s a playbook that if you want to be a good girl of summer you have to follow. I believe I’ll get crucified for spilling the beans – but I’m going to do it anyway. I have nothing to lose and summer is almost over.
So the way it works is this, the more men you flirt with the more options you have to meet more men. Fixating on one – should not be an option for summer, that’s for the Fall – but not for summer months. Did I mention that shameless flirting is a good thing? Great – point number one is over. The other thing I’ve noticed is that a lot of ladies are heading to the internet to find these boys of summer. That’s perfectly acceptable. Why not – once more – the more men you meet the more options you have. It’s what I call the grown up version of “bar encounters/boys of summer.”
Next up – is getting out of your own environment. You have to – because well, there are more options. It’s like swimming in the same pool every weekend. Same pool – same people. It’s not that you don’t like that pool or those people – but sometimes going to a pool that you’ve never been to before has the better sun!? You got me folks? Making new friends takes a little laughing, a little talking and a couple of beers. Ladies – try it. Trust me it works.
The other thing that’s kind of essential is a good wingman. I’m probably not being PC when I call them a wing man – but I like Top Gun and I’m not PC so I’m going with it. The point is, you need a good spotter and person to cover your ass. The spotter (wingman) makes first contact for you – because let’s face it girls – most times are friends are better at making initial contact and introductions than we are for ourselves. Plus – you’ve got to get the conversation started and two girls to one guy has better odds for conversation. If they can withstand the verbal jousting of two females then you are in good shape for conversation. It’s kind of like the test – if they can’t speak to both of you, they probably have a hard time talking in general…and then that’s a long night!!! Better to know now.
Also when your wingman is covering your ass, she knows when to step in and say, either your lipstick is on your teeth, your skirt is tucked in your underwear, NO – you can’t leave with that guy with the knife in his back-pocket, or my favorite: my car broke down – I need YOU to give ME a ride home RIGHT NOW!!!
Lastly – no attachments can be made immediately. This is a conversation I’ve had repeatedly with a few of my girl-friends. The point is fun. Doing something different, trying something new. Getting out and not settling for the first thing to tell you in a drunken slur – “BUT I’M IN LOVE WITH YOU”. There are places to go, bars to stumble into and many-many new friends to meet.
The time has come ladies for all of us to embrace our inner boy – and I call it boy because boys are so flighty and quick to pick up and move it along – I think some of us have been doing it wrong for way too long. Have a good time this summer. Look for some fun and enjoy it. Before you know it, summer is over and the only thing you are looking forward to is cooking a Turkey or a ToFurkey.
Get your kicks – while the sun is still up and the lights stay on longer!
xox – Ms Amanda Jones
photo originally published here